Ever wonder how some people can be so “out there”? How some people have it so it easy when it comes to making new friends and being social?
If you’ve lived your whole life as an introvert you’re probably used to the whole being a lone wolf thing, but we’re here to share with you a few of our favorite tips for making new friends despite the dread of going out and meeting new people! Turns out that the remedy for shyness is a simple little confidence boost.
- Practice positive self-talk: You’d be surprised how things change when you become nice to yourself. You’d also be surprised at what others think of you when you establish exactly what you think about yourself first. Practice telling yourself everyday that you’re awesome, strong, brilliant. It will be awkward in the beginning and you won’t want to keep doing it, but stick with it for at least 21 days. You can thank us later!
- Try not to overthink: Part of what keeps us from being social is the fear of what will happen if (insert scenario here). You create this scenario based on personal fears of humiliation or loneliness. But put those fears aside and just let things flows. If you do have those fears, be ok with experiencing them!
- Make yourself uncomfortable: This goes hand in hand with the last one! Putting yourself in front of your biggest fears is the key to getting over them. Take a public speaking class, do karaoke, slowly start building up your confidence by facing your fears!
- Have go to talking points: Sometimes having 2 or 3 questions with follow-up questions is a great way to feel prepared and confident in a social environment. Have your go-to’s that you can build up on and have those follow-up questions when things get a little silenced.
- Be ok with the awkward silence: This is bound to happen in any social encounter. It’s okay, it’s normal and it’s okay to feel uncomfortable. This doesn’t mean the friendship won’t work out, it just needs some warming up. Give it time before you give it up!
Being shy does not mean you are doomed to being friendless. Practice the tips above daily with your current friends or people you meet at networking events, but also keep your essence and personality without trying to be someone you’re not.